Get some perspective. Usually when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. In the larger picture, this one problem means almost nothing. This fight we’re having with someone else — it’s over something that matters naught. Let it go, and move on.
Learn the art of empathy. Too often we judge people on too little information. We must try to understand what they do instead, put ourselves in their shoes, start with the assumption that what others do has a good reason if we understand what they’re going through. Life becomes much better if you learn this art.
Do you ever wonder why Allah does not always deliver us from our scars and problems immediately? The reason is because only Allah knows everything that needs to be done in the lives of His servants—and the perfect timing for it to be done.
We are not always delivered from our distress at the precise moment we call Him. Sometimes we must endure for a while, be patient and continue in faith, stronger. Thank Allah, during those times in which He decides for whatever reason not to deliver you right away, He always gives the grace and strength you need to press on toward eventual victory.
”O you who believe! be patient and excel in patience and remain steadfast, and be careful of (your duty to) Allah, that you may be successful.” [Al Imraan :200]
“Nothing you seek relying on your Lord will ever be difficult and nothing you seek relying on yourself will ever be easy”
- Ibn Ata’Allah (Rahimahullah)
You hurt. You recover. You move on. Odds are pretty good you’re just going to get hurt again. But each time, you learn something.
Each time, you come out of it a little stronger, and at some point you realize that there are more flavors of pain than coffee. There’s the little empty pain of leaving something behind - graduating, taking the next step forward, walking out of something familiar and safe into the unknown. There’s the big, whirling pain of life upending all of your plans and expectations. There’s the sharp little pains of failure, and the more obscure aches of successes that didn’t give you what you thought they would. There are the vicious, stabbing pains of hopes being torn up. The sweet little pains of finding others, giving them your love, and taking joy in their life they grow and learn. There’s the steady pain of empathy that you shrug off so you can stand beside a wounded friend and help them bear their burdens.
And if you’re very, very lucky, there are a very few blazing hot little pains you feel when you realized that you are standing in a moment of utter perfection, an instant of triumph, or happiness, or mirth which at the same time cannot possibly last - and yet will remain with you for life. Everyone is down on pain, because they forget something important about it: Pain is for the living. Only the dead don’t feel it. Pain is a part of life. Sometimes it’s a big part, and sometimes it isn’t, but either way, it’s a part of the big puzzle, the deep voice, the great purpose. Pain does two things: It teaches you, tells you that you’re alive. Then it passes away and leaves you changed. It leaves you wiser, sometimes. Sometimes it leaves you stronger. Either way, pain leaves its mark, and everything important that will ever happen to you in life is going to involve it in one degree or another.
As we are now entering the final 10-days of Ramadan, when we pray for ourselves and our well-being, let us also pray for the oppressed people of Gaza and other oppressed people everywhere in the world, independent of their religious, national and ethnic affiliations. Allah (God), as we Muslims believe, is Rabb Al-Alameen (the Lord of the Universes), and May He protect and bless us all. And May He defeat all oppressors, no matter whoever they are and wherever they are. Ameen!
Allah fills the believers’ hearts with the radiant light of His guidance. This radiant light moves outward through the thoughts and deeds of the believers, guiding the multitudes to the same light, and thus bringing joy, harmony and tranquillity into their souls. Sincerity, honesty, mercy, courage, truth, and beauty are some of the shades of God’s light freely given to those who are guided unto His path.
The remembrance of Allah (God) is one of the aims of the worship in Islam. Rooted in Tawhid, the remembrance manifests in thanking God for His countless blessings that are ceaselessly showered upon the believer. Loving all human beings, working to maintain justice and pace in the society, helping the poor and needy, leading a caring life, etc. become part of the worship in Islam if they are directed towards pleasing Allah.
May Allah accept our upcoming fasts, prayers, recitations, invocations, supplications, intentions, provisions, charity, and other good deeds.
A mistake we often make is to think that loving someone - anyone, including parents, friends, or significant others - should be easy. But its actually really challenging to care deeply for someone. Asrelationships deepen, the veneer of perfection wears away, and we discover more of the flaws, both in the other and in ourselves. So we chronically trade the challenging, deep relationships for the easy, shallow ones, ultimately sacrificing what means the most in any relationship—the opportunity to contribute and to be contributed to. Often, the challenge of a relationship is the best indicator of its value.